Life Lessons From Silver Linings Playbook


So last weekend was a huge movie weekend for me. I watched Les Misérables (this movie struck me in so many ways I never expected. Dug up old memories and dreams that should maybe stay tucked away. However, a post is coming) and Silver Linings Playbook, a movie I couldn't wait to watch as it deals with two very interesting aspects: love and craziness.

Bradley Cooper and Jennifer Lawrence, both absolutely genius (Brad, who knew you weren't just a hottie? The boy can act! And as for Jen, she completely blew my mind. I've never seen her act before and all I can say is WOW), have this sparkling, fizzy energy between them as Pat the guy who's recently left a mental hospital and Tiffany the young widow who deals with her husband's death by having lots and lots of sex. And dancing.

This movie makes an impact as it's so straightforward and well executed. This is a story that deals with reality, and I don't mean "oh-look-here's-a-fat-naked-girl-with-"curves" reality but actual reality, with feelings and emotions and laughter and tears and love and craziness. That's the strength of it.While observing its greatness with a cup of tea and some dark chocolate, I came to the following conclusions:

We’re not born crazy. Life makes us crazy.

Pat could be anyone. I’m one hundred per cent sure that if David found me in the shower with a guy, he’d beat the heck out of him too. Yet Pat ends up in a hospital and is viewed as insane, fragile and kind of scary. When all he did was have a natural reaction, if irrationally violent. Of course, Pat’s father has his own issues, which just adds to my thesis that life makes us all mad.

The same goes for Tiffany – she’s a girl “with a broken wing”, as Pat puts it. She uses sex to get over the most terrifying thing I can imagine happening to anyone. Not very healthy, but when are we ever sensible and normal when losing a loved one?

We all need someone to be crazy with.

At Ronnie and Veronica’s dinner, Pat and Tiffany bond over the one thing they initially seem to have in common – mental health medication. Pat is drawn to Tiffany because she's the only one at that dinner table who's not secretly judging him. Throughout the movie, they complete each other in the touching way that only two people that truly understand each other can. And this completing, this chemistry, this electricity, this understanding, that’s what makes a great movie. Because we can all relate to needing someone that we can let out our craziness with.

Little things can make you just as crazy as the big things.

Pat slowly learns to deal with everyday things…but there’s one tiny detail that he can’t handle: Stevie Wonder’s My Cherie Amour. His wedding song triggers the side of him that he’s doing his best to hide and he’s completely powerless when it comes on the radio. Why do tiny, niggling things get us down so much more than big-time stuff sometimes? My fiancĂ©, David, is amazing in a true crisis, but small everyday messes can send him flying off the handle.  Small things get under our skin. They’re like paper cuts whereas big things are goals, challenges, mountains to climb. There’s this strange notion that strong people overcome big hurdles…and never get paper cuts. That’s one of the craziest misconceptions out there.

We crave happy endings because they’re a good kind of crazy.

One of my favourite scenes in the film is when Pat wakes up his parents at four o’clock in the morning to complain about a sad ending in a Hemingway book. Tiffany later refers to Lord of the Flies as “no silver lining.” I loved those scenes because I absolutely love happy endings and actually think they’re logical – we all want one.  When I was a kid, I refused to read or watch anything that ended badly. I’m not doing that anymore as it would mean missing out on stuff like One Day and Baz Luhrmann’s Romeo+Juliet. But at the end of the day, I agree with Pat. Why not put a happy ending on it? The world is horrible enough as it is.

At the end of the day, love is the one thing, big or small, that makes us crazy.

What Tiffany and Pat have in common is that they were both broken down by love. This is exactly why 90% of all songs, movies, books and art out there deals with this mad emotion. Love drives us crazy because it can. We get so absorbed into it that we lose all sense of the world and of ourselves. Love, real love, is a power bigger than anything human beings have ever created. In good and bad.

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  1. I love this film an extraordinary amount, I highly recommend the book xx

  2. I cannot wait to see this film and read the book. My brother has seen it and said it was excellent. This is my kind of story!


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