Three Things

I got the idea for this post from Vashti at Maybe McQueen. Vashti is the wife of Spartacus star Andy Whitfield, who tragically passed away after a long battle with non-Hodgkin's lymphoma (read my post about Andy here) and her blog is truly inspiring!

Three best choices I made over the past 10 years:
1. Leaving  my home country and exploring the world.
2. Daring to go for my dream career as a writer, no matter how "impossible" everyone told me it was.
3. Becoming vegan....or at least trying.

Three things I had to let go of to live life fully:
1. Eating meat and dairy...and I couldn't be happier.
2. Caring about what my parents think about my life choices. They're not going to like them anyway.
3. The idea of "working in fashion". It made me unhappy.

The major crossroads I faced over the last 10 years:
1. Whether to give up a permanent job to go freelance. I'm so happy I did it!
2. Whether to finish fashion college or drop out. I didn't love it, but I'm glad I stuck with something.
3. When to move from Milan to London. I'm finally moving now - September 4th is the big day!

Three biggest surprises over the past 10 years:
1. Making a living as a freelance writer is possible! There are actually people out there that want to pay me to write in their magazines - and they think I'm good at it!
2. Being vegan is not easy, but it's nowhere near as hard as I thought. And the rewards are amazing.
3. There is one person in this world that truly loves me enough to stay by my side for five years and even ask me to marry him. This is truly mind-blowing to me.

Three biggest mistakes I made:
1. Quitting acting and leaving Los Angeles. I regret it every day...but not enough to quit writing and move back.
2. Torturing my body and my mind with perfectionism that led to eating disorders.
3. Not always listening to the people I love and letting my own emotions get in the way of my relationships.

Three greatest challenges I faced:
1. Being on my own in a brand-new city. Three times. Four, if you count the new adventure I'm starting in September.
2. Going after my dreams in an industry where the only thing that matters is "who you know" (and I know no one)
3. Letting someone share my everyday life and see all of me, flaws included, with the confidence that he would still love me.

Three things I had to face up to in order to move forward:
1. My depression. I had to learn to live with it in order to overcome it.
2. Perfectionism and what it was doing to me, my body and my mind.
3. My fear of not being able to do things on my own and trust myself.

The three things I most acknowledge myself for:
1. Actually getting paid for doing what I love.
2. Living my life as cruelty-free as possible, avoiding anything that causes harm to animals or nature.
3. Trying to be a better person, a better writer, a better activist and a better girlfriend every day.

Try writing your own list - it really makes you think! At Vashti's blog, we all wrote ours in the comments.  Oh, and have a great week.

pictures from Pinterest.


  1. Bellissimo post!:) sempre espresso con sincerità e che ispira una gioia di vivere nonostante le difficoltà che si incontrano sempre!:)

    1. Grazie Claudia! Vashti è una grande ispirazione per me per la sua forza e il suo ottimismo - non so se ce la farei mai a sopravvivere una simile tragedia!

  2. I love this post! you are like my overseas twin- i'm vegan/work in fashion & feel shallow about it/ want to be a freelance writer / have parents who disapprove of every life choice!

    1. Kori, it sounds like we have a lot of stuff in common! I was a web editor for a fashion e-commerce agency until two months ago and I liked it, but being passionate about animal rights, it never quite felt right to write and edit copy on "lovely calfskin shoes" and "the exquisite new furs". Being freelance, on the other hand, works for me so far! And as for the parents...when they see that you're happy, they'll come around!

  3. thank you so much for this honest post - it's inspiring, heartfelt and so incredibly candid. I think I will have to sit down and write my own list - I don't think we reflect enough nowadays as this is the perfect way to make that happen. thank you again : )

    1. Thank you Hope! I think you definitely should write your own list - you learn so much about yourself!


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